Better, somehow
~ by choice, by accident, by each other
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Better, somehow
~ by choice, by accident, by each other
Better arrives quietly
~ not always because of a plan, not on any kind of schedule
My life is better because of you.
Your life is better because of me.
That might be the whole thing …
Better is not always dramatic.
Sometimes it walks in late, underdressed, and exactly at the best time.
My life is better because of you.
Your life is better because of me.
Better than we were.
What’s ahead may be better, too, though I wouldn’t want to overpromise before breakfast.
Better by choice? Better by accident? Better in ways we can’t yet imagine?
I don’t think those questions require answers.
They don’t require more questions either.
They are my go-slow program, which is not meant to be fast or slow. It’s about making sense of life while living it. And when we can’t make sense of it, maybe that’s the test that proves we’re still learning.
We move.
We pause.
We help.
We are helped.
We become better, not always by plan, not always by wisdom, and certainly not always on schedule.
Some mornings, I would settle for better by coffee, but life keeps declining that proposal, and I want it to be better when I get out of bed. Then the only control I have is how long I stay in bed - like this morning when exhaustion from recent days needs a little more time to wear off …
Sometimes, better arrives wearing ordinary clothes:
delay, inconvenience, apology, forgiveness, chance, fatigue, or someone standing nearby at the right moment.
Isn’t that most of what changes us?
Not a grand theory. Not a perfect system. Not a polished plan.
The person who waited. The person who listened. The person who stayed. The person who left us with a better version of ourselves than they found.
Maybe that’s enough. Maybe that’s more than enough.
Not certainty. Not mastery.
Just the steady evidence of each other.
Life keeps teaching us - we are at the same moment, always, both the teacher and the student …
Appreciate the wholeness of this muse.
Thank you
The go slow program helps us to make sense of where our life is, and to contemplate where it might go next. Patience along with accepting the apologies, forgiveness, chance happenings, and support, help us……. hopefully for the better! This can all be enough if we allow it to be. We then need to continue on the route that has brought us to where we are currently in our lives and then to be satisfied with where the road might wander next.